Three Myths About Love - by Engr. Eyitemi Emmanuel

Three Myths About Love Love is an essential part of life. Everyone dreams of it. Everyone strives for it. And we overthink it, imagining what an ideal love should be in a fictional perfect world. Such a cult feeling, of course, is not complete without myths. Specifically: 1. Each of us has our soul mate in life. There is a common myth among people, especially women. When the creator the human, they divided them into two halves-making one half a woman, the other half a man. Then the Creator scattered the halves around the world. Since then, every person in the world has their soul mate. The one – the only one intended for you makes all the others not for you. If you don’t have a great relationship with your partner, your answer is simple: They are not the person destined for me. All responsibility is shifted to chance, to fate, to the stars, higher or darker forces. Besides, your other half, too, walks the world alone, without you. After all, it would help if you found them. Big news. There are no predestined halves. Just as you cannot be the best when starting into a new sport, a perfect relationship also needs time. It begins with creating a happy relationship with the person. This responsibility lies on both of you. Then, only love and respect for each other, over the years, despite the obstacles encountered, can be the impetus that will lead to the feeling that you have a second half next to you. 2. Love happens at first sight It is not entirely true. Yes, from the first meeting, a person can arouse interest, sympathy, and a desire to get closer. But if we talk about a deep, balanced feeling based on common goals, interests, and values, then one look at a person is not enough to form these. To love your partner, you have to get to know them a little better. When a man and a woman meet for the first time, they might not feel for each other. In communication, they discover more and more positive qualities in each other. Thus love arises. It may happen the other way around too. One may fall in love at first sight, with a sense of falling into one’s soul. Then it turns out they are entirely different people who have nothing in common. A relationship with that partner is no longer desired. You can evaluate your feelings and tell if there was love at first sight after a certain period. Therefore, always give time and a chance to find love. 3. Love passes with time It is not entirely true. Yes, from the first meeting, a person can arouse interest, sympathy, and a desire to get closer. But if we talk about a deep, balanced feeling based on common goals, interests, and values, then one look at a person is not enough to form these. To love your partner, you have to get to know them a little better. When a man and a woman meet for the first time, they might not feel for each other. In communication, they discover more and more positive qualities in each other. Thus love arises. It may happen the other way around too. One may fall in love at first sight, with a sense of falling into one’s soul. Then it turns out they are entirely different people who have nothing in common. A relationship with that partner is no longer desired. You can evaluate your feelings and tell if there was love at first sight after a certain period. Therefore, always give time and a chance to find love. It depends on what you mean by love. If it is exclusively sexual desire, then yes, it can fade over the years. Not in the sense that you will no longer want to have sex with your partner, but you may stop going crazy at the very thought of them. Love has many components, it’s more than sexual attraction. It’s also a mutual heartfelt attachment to each other. It’s the perception of the other person as a part of themselves. It’s the desire to take care of each other. In any case, attempts to determine the life span of these feelings are meaningless. Each love story is individual and has its term. There is no single formula for calculating the duration of love. It’s mostly up to us. Clinging to myths and a particular image is more likely to make you miss real magic. Love is like a fingerprint – unique in everyone. The only way to find out its shape is by doing it in real life instead of written stories. Eyitemi